Love, actually
Some random things that have drifted across my mind recently:
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We spend our lives looking for something that will matter so much to us,
that we can’t live without it
Then when we find it,
we run away to practise living without it.
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Do you ever have a moment when you realise that someone genuinely cares for you
And you wonder, “WHY?”
Being loved is almost as moving an experience as loving someone
Sometimes it’s slightly spooky and occasionally downright scary
…coming face to face with those aspects of yourself that are deserving of love.
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Each time you hurt me
I flee and hide
Nursing my wounds and wondering why you keep hurting meAnd then I come back to you
In the hope that this time, you’ll heal me instead.
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You don’t need to own a person to be able to love them
You don’t need to be in a relationship with them, don’t need to have them reciprocate
You don’t even actually need them to be actively a part of your life
All you need is to be happy that the person exists
Not indifferent, not indulgent but actively pleased, gratified by the thought
If the thought of the person puts a smile on your face, that can erase all the unpleasant memories they’ve created…
That’s love, that’s love enough, that’s enough really.
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Earlier in the week, I inadvertently said something funny and intelligent (only I can’t remember it now). And someone in the room said,
Will you marry me?
I dimpled when someone told my proposer,
You’re already married….to a great man!!!!!
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On the weekend, I saw my dear friend. And she looked mesmerizing. She was always a pretty girl. Nicely-dressed too. But last evening, she was positively shimmering. Suddenly I just knew that she was very beautiful. Like her very skin was aglow with her deeply spiritual self, her eyes dancing with the sweet, uncynical wisdom I’ve come to associate with her. Didn’t someone say “We don’t love people because they’re beautiful but they seem beautiful to us because we love them.”? Then when I told her for the fifteenth time that she looked gorgeous, she beamed back and eyes twinkling, asked,
Are you having a crush on me?
I declared,
YES!
And again, for a brief moment, I wondered why my normally easy-to-agitation self was so complacent, unperturbed over something that seems to disturb most people.
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From a movie I saw on the weekend,
You can have both roots and wings.
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Sometimes truly loving a person means letting them believe that they care about you more than you care about them. Everybody needs to be loved but some people can’t bear to be reminded of it.
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May 13th, 2007 at 2:49 pm
thanks for writing this
its beauticul perfect v wise and v happy reading 
May 13th, 2007 at 6:17 pm
This is nice, contemplative but not preachy, pithy and quotable
May 13th, 2007 at 10:15 pm
…beautiful thoughts….its scary how articulate you are on some of these …
May 14th, 2007 at 9:24 am
Unadulterated Ideasmithy! loved this one
May 14th, 2007 at 11:58 am
Y’know the weirdest thing? I can’t remember what you said either! However, my offer still stands (yes, despite the ‘great man’).
Stupid monogamy!
*grin*
May 14th, 2007 at 2:08 pm
@ Ricercer, DC, Bibs:
Thenk yew vairy much!
@ Shreyasi: LOL….aajkal sab cheezon mein milawat hai, sivay Ideasmithy ke! *Pardon my brief moment of madness*
@ Chronicus Skepticus: Mucho gratified! Wonly, this comment blows the cover off my ‘mysterious proposer’.
May 14th, 2007 at 4:11 pm
hmmm..wondering about the movie line..
May 14th, 2007 at 5:24 pm
lovely vignettes!
May 14th, 2007 at 7:35 pm
lol…. true….
I dont believe I need to be loved…
and then sometimes I just look at myself in the eye in the mirror and smile “What bullshit!”
then walk out of the house..and say…bloody sentimental jellyfish you are becoming woman! knock some sense into that head.
lol..
May 14th, 2007 at 7:36 pm
lol…. true….
I dont believe I need to be loved…
and then sometimes I just look at myself in the eye in the mirror and smile “What bullshit!”
then walk out of the house..and say…bloody sentimental jellyfish you are becoming woman! knock some sense into that head.
lol..
May 14th, 2007 at 8:23 pm
Uh, one more proposal wouldn’t be totally inappropriate, would it? But I have to ask. Will you marry me?
May 14th, 2007 at 9:16 pm
u know wot
perfect time to put the perfect thots…
May 15th, 2007 at 12:25 am
The last one puts a few things into the right perspective and helps me understand Toujours better!
May 15th, 2007 at 1:11 am
“Didn’t someone say “We don’t love people because they’re beautiful but they seem beautiful to us because we love them.”?”
I think I learned this is as part of an English Lesson in my school’s “Bal Bharati”… what was it now? Ah yes, it was this Russian Folk take - My mother is the most beautiful woman in the world.
http://www.amazon.com/Mother-Most-Beautiful-Woman-World/dp/0688512518
You’d like
May 15th, 2007 at 12:52 pm
> You can have both roots and wings.
Chicken curry?
May 15th, 2007 at 9:05 pm
I remember the story that Melody makes a mention of in here. 7th standard, I think. After reading that story, I also remember telling my friend - “I don’t think my mom is the most beautiful woman in the world. But I don’t think I love her any less.” I went on to say that the lesson was a wee bit misleading.
It’s funny that I still remember those lines.
May 16th, 2007 at 7:31 am
Too deep for me, ma’m. I should stick to samosettes. And grape juice.
(You, your ‘proposer’ and the other small lady owe two men an Evening with an Amnesty.)
Your template’s jumping. Very … disorienting? … for an old man.
J.A.P.
May 16th, 2007 at 2:30 pm
@ Manuscrypts: ‘Sweet Home Alabama’.
@ Masquerader:
Thank you. I’m really enjoying my freedom right now. I’ll treasure the comment for posterity, though.
@ Because of B: Is it? Has it happened to you too?
@ Brad: Ah, so she does exist? When are you going to tell us about her?
@ Melody: That’s the story I was remembering. Didn’t want to write it all out in this post, though.
@ St: :-p I ddin’t know the critters had roots too!
@ J.A.P. - Old man? Teddy-bear! Sorry about the template….it reflects my mood - jumpy and restless till…uh, well, till I settle down.
May 17th, 2007 at 10:37 am
potatos are ‘roots’
May 18th, 2007 at 5:13 pm
Uncanny…are you by any chance a member of the Thought Police?
[a first time commenter n regular reader]
May 19th, 2007 at 11:18 am
@ St:
Thanks for speaking up….it is always good to actually talk to people who read you.
@ Pack of atoms: Ah, now that you know, I’ll have to kill you.
May 26th, 2007 at 2:17 am
Or, (since you’re no stranger to proposals from women:P) you could marry me?
May 26th, 2007 at 7:32 pm
@ Pack of atoms: If some people I’ve dated are to believed….marriage might be an even more fitting punishment than murder!
June 3rd, 2007 at 8:40 pm
*shudder*
methinx we must’ve dated d same people
[v late, pliss miss, sorry miss!]
June 4th, 2007 at 10:19 am
@ Pack of atoms: Hmm…I wonder if we’ve ever dated each other!
January 4th, 2008 at 12:56 pm
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